Yes, I'm back in business.
Before I continue with all the tons of work that needs to be done desperately, I also need to write this as a reminder to everyone, so I'll keep it short and simple.
And particular, I hope that there is this certain group that will read it.
Lesson26#:
Openness
During the recent event, Merentas Desa 2010, which I wrote about in my previous post, there have been a lot of complains especially from those who were disqualified.
But the interesting part was this, news came to my ears that some who openly cursed them either upfront or even sarcastically, were called to have a little chit chat, and they were asked to apologize otherwise discipline action will be taken. And yes, news came to me that they were pissed ALL THE MORE.
So what's my point here? Now I'm not saying that cursing a group of people for their failed action is a good thing or it should have been done, I also do think that it is in fact not that good, but I want to shift to the attention of those receiving the criticism.
Openness, is something I've learn to develop over time. Its something hard to birth but yet it can be so very useful in life.
Basically, as insults and criticism is thrown at us, it is always not about reacting, but responding. Reacting would mean upon receiving an insult, an action is immediately produce to counter it, most of the time, it doesn't go through thinking, rather mainly emotional reaction. Whereas responding would require one to actually sit down and think before taking an action.
Perhaps those who insulted them should have apologized also, but to FORCE someone to apologize and to act as if being insulted is a BIG THING, something seems so wrong about it. Take for example the prefects, we practically get insulted from the time we start officially being a prefect, to the time we finish our term. Only those who stand out as a people person would be safe from harm, otherwise, trust me, no student actually likes the prefects.
So my point here is, be open about it, don't react and cause small things to become a big issue, to a point as if the world will fall. When I heard about the news, I was all the more sadden because when people know about this, it just speaks to the world that that group is just unable to handle criticism. I do acknowledge the hard work and effort put into all these, but since matters are bad, spend time fixing it than to make matters worse.
Please, be open.
Concerned runner,
Wai Leem
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